The good news about retroactive jealously is that these past events and people are less likely to be a real threat to you or to your relationship. He isn't the only male to experience this. She is just another human like you and I, and if you put her on a pedestal than that is your own fault, not hers. Our new Life Labs Practical Wisdom online course entitled 'How to Save Your Relationship' gives you the tools and insights to singlehandedly change your relationship for the better. He broke up with me stated that he couldn't get pass through it and how he wished that he has done it earlier so he would be ok with us because he loves me a lot.
But how can her past experience interfere with the present? And again if you can't, go to marriage counceling. With a number as high as your saying she is a divorce waiting to happen. People respect those who accomplish challenging feats, while they consider those who overindulge in easily obtained feats as weak, untrustworthy or flawed. But I wish you luck, but do what your logic tells you, not your heart. Regardless of who she was dating or what she did, however, it is your responsibility to free her from her past by letting go of it and refusing to let it upset you. You might be feeling inadequate of down about yourself. Trust me I got that and if it helped I wouldn't be here.
What are you both doing to try to help? This is just a feminist scam she is running on and against you. But from an evolutionary standpoint, it makes total sense. You have to register why this is hurting you, and how it may conflict with your old ideas versus how you are having to shift your thoughts to accommodate how it actually is for you now. She is 21, and im the 8th guy she had sex with. Don't make the mistake of getting even.
Because right now, I'm dealing with just that. That she thinks she could have saved herself all the heartache by meeting you first. And I feel the same way when you say that even a 1000 partners would be ok if they were all serious relationships. What lies behind this anxiety? So, your homework is simple: she needs to stop disclosing, you need to stop over-thinking it and you both need to just enjoy being with each other and seeing where this thing goes. So I kept pushing it saying am I really your 8th or is it gonna go up again. And though I'm a child of God I don't know that a pastor could even help.
My now Fiancé has a very promiscuous past. Constantly obsessing about your boyfriend's past can be a debilitating and stressful activity. My old girlfriend had a much more colourful history, threesomes, etc and various boyfriends from all different backgrounds. That puts a focus on her past, on her exes and how you're different. To create this article, 15 people, some anonymous, worked to edit and improve it over time.
Often, to suffer from retroactive jealousy means you're probably not being productive enough in your day-to-day life, and so you're feeling unchallenged or unfulfilled in some way. How do you feel about the relationship? This is not an attempt to pass judgment or be self-righteous in any way. Imagine the sex experience she has and try to imagine how I felt when she told me. For a man to have that many conquests he has to be attractive, charming, have money, be smart, witty and funny. Dispite her parents divorce, she remained very close to her Dad — even her brothers and mom remain close to him.
However, from your description of things, it sounds like the jealousy is coming from you. I read a question that was similar to the one I have, but I did not believe it could fully be used for my situation. After I had felt the score was settled, then I find out more. I know what we have is special and I also know she loves me in a way no one ever could or has. Listen to what she has to say. Regardless of whether my concerns about viewing habits are justified, I think she needs to have a discussion with me rather than sneaking around behind my back.
But I loved her so much because she is so loyal, so loving and caring, she sacrafices her time sometimes for me. Notice when you are having thoughts about her past that make you angry and then ask yourself if there are other ways that you can think about it. The best remedy for this is to create some of your own wonderful experiences and memories. A great way of training the mind to live more in the present moment is to practice meditation. Nope, it's not our faults if men are insecure. Not really age per say, but experience.