That is absolutely the approach I will use with my husband when I talk to him soon. You will resent him more and more as time goes on. I remember those days in my marriage! Janice I had this exact problem with my husband about 35 years ago. I feel like a brat for even complaining bc im not being cheated on or beated on…. What becomes of her husband? A lot of people think strength training only builds muscles but it is a super efficient and safe way of losing weight and the best option if you're overweight, because your muscles need energy to build themselves up, and fat is energy, so as long as you don't eat a bunch of junk food and try to regulate your intake your body will use your body fat to build muscles. Anyway, fast forward a fab summer in 2017 to now. Here's the cautionary tale: 3 kids; 1 in college, one about to go to college and an 8th grader.
I started crying and said that I couldn't do it all myself and I needed help around there. There are also some self esteem issues, which is probably what makes it so hard to talk to her about this. However, the physical body 'I' am in is not the real me. My child is not my husband's. Last, since you mentioned your husband comes from a large family, then, perhaps his eating is psychological, and behavioral. .
Babe what do we need to do? Within the first 18 months of our relationship she started putting on the weight, but I simply attributed it to her being unfulfilled with her career prospects, so I shrugged it off, telling myself that she would begin taking care of herself when she was in a better frame of mind to do so. I love my husband, but I want to feel attracted to him. Am I emotionally blocking it or is it just gone? I was tired of the lack of intimacy in our relationship sexual and eventually emotional. But although he initially agreed to this, he has since back-tracked, and decided that he is not ready to have this sort of agreement, and he is not willing to continue the conversation because he is not ready to have that conversation yet. Your love and support and her feeling supported and loved is probably going to be huge, if she doesn't already feel that way. I often feel like such a bad wife for not wanting to do anything with my husband. What did you ever do? My go to was baggy shirts and sweat pants how sexy is that? And if you could care less about him, then you wouldn't mind him doing exactly that.
Do you even still love him? Of course, we only know a few details, and lives are so complex, but things sound serious for you so I'm thinking you might try some couple's counseling. Sorry for the super long post. He is an addictive personality and food is his coping mechanism. Waiting for his stroke so you can wipe his ass! You currently have 0 posts. I had no idea how much this was upsetting me until I began to write this. He leaves for work 3 months at a time. He hasnt kissed, not interested in intimacy, its really hurtful to me and I dont know how to bring it up to him in a respectful way.
Your husband may feel rejected and unloved. He doesn't feel loved, so he eats. When I was working out, losing weight, coming home from the gym showing off my hard muscles, my husband was impressed and attracted. Hi Adri, Still just swinging between tolerating and being repulsed. Unfortunately it hasn't changed anything for my husband and I.
This was to get me to realize how important he was. My husband and I have been together for 14 years, married for 11, and have two children under the age of 10. How do I handle it? His biological father is the man who I strayed with. I'm fell out of love! Now, more than fifteen years later, it may not be strange that we've grown apart in some ways and grown completely siamese in others. All he knew is what he wanted and demanded all the time.
We share a lot of the same goals. He must have gained around 50 pounds in just over a year. If he wanted more than that, he would have to catch me. Like I said, it has not been an easy path. I asked for the meal plan in advance. Love and affection can let you live with 250 but not 400.
Thanks for sharing your story! I have been married to a morbidly obese woman for 15 years. I forget things all the time, and lose my keys. I am now fit, healthy, successful and happy within myself and my achievements. Well fast forward to more recent times. We were kids, but believe me we knew there was no love between them. Don't talk down about him a bunch to your kids. It sounds different in your situation -- like his lack of respect towards his appearance and health is perhaps more of a turn-off for you as it would be for most people than his actual appearance.